Posted in Christmas, Elf on the shelf

Christmas Tradition

When I was younger we always used to see Family on Christmas Eve and Boxing day. We always used to have Chinese on Christmas eve too.

These have still stuck now I have my own two children.

As a family we have two other  Christmas Traditions, Every year we buy one or two new decorations, which the children choose themselves and they go into a box (I have to take a photo of what decorations they have each so they go into the right boxes) The plan is when they either leave home or get married (I can’t decide which one as of yet!)  they will get their  box of Christmas decorations.

We also have Buddy the Elf who comes to visit! The Elf on the Shelf is a American tradition which has come over from across the pond, well the big ocean to be totally honest. The Elf can be naughty or nice, our elf does a bit if both. He comes from the North Pole to watch over the children and report back to Santa. The children really enjoying seeing what he gets up to and we take photos daily, or when I remember to do so!

 

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I asked Being Tilly’s Mummy what her family’s Christmas Tradition is and here is what she say’s

“Every Christmas Morning my older kids and Tilly all get in bed with me to open our stockings. The older two are 24 and 21. This year there is my son’s girlfriend Amber and that’s going to be strange for her to get into bed with us all.”

I also had a lovely chat with A free from Life about their Christmas traditions and here is what she say’s

“My Youngest has his birthday on Christmas day, so every year we have Christmas in the morning and birthday in the afternoon. It’s spilt with lunch midday- Christmas Dinner with birthday cake for pudding!”  

Last but not least is Me, My life and the Tardis

“In my house we have an traditional that accidentally formed. We all go off and do our own things for a few hours because my mum normally needs a afternoon nap as she has had about a bottle of baileys!”

As you can see everyone’s Christmas Traditions are very different but very special to each family.

What are your Christmas Traditions?

Posted in Best things in life are free

Today I got thinking…. 

How much one to one time do I actually spend with each child… obviously I spend a lot more time with Bell than I do with  Bear as his now in full time education. But now Bell is getting to be a less of a a mummys girl (don’t it’s sad times) and more of I will stay with daddy without the emotional tears and tantrums which used to come with it… I have promised myself I will spend some one to one time with Bear. 

Even if it’s just to Tesco or a quick drive to collect petrol, as we all know money can be tight some times,  those 5 to 10 minutes can actually improve a child’s behaviour. 

Why? 

Because they aren’t trying to fight for attention with other siblings or your husband/partner, who could be their dad or their step parent. 

One to one time is actually beneficial  for both a adult and of course more importantly the child. 

With 16 years of child care behind me I have noticed the following of why a child could play up. I am obviously not a expert in child behaviour.

But here it goes….

  1. Negative speech towards a child,if your always given negative commnets to a child he or she may or will play on those comments as they will feel that they can’t do nothing better.
  2. You work part-time but your always putting your child in clubs, I know how annoying children can be. But the importance of spending time with a child and helping and taking time out for your child should come first!
  3. Always on your phone, okay even I am guilty of this put the phone down for 10 minutes and have a conversation with your child it’s not hard seriously ask how their day has been, who they played with simple things will make sure your child will feel they are valued
  4. Who always picks up? Yes this is tricky as many parents work long hours now a days but if your at home and it’s always your wife picking up from school but she works from home and your at home with the youngest swap roles, let dad pick up and have a conversation. Obviously if you can, it will make the world of good
  5.  Limit Ipad time, I swear this is the route of all evil, this is why children play up, this is why the art of conversation is dying out. You would be surprised at how many children get in from school and sit glued to the Ipad until dinner is ready!
  6. Last but not least take a interest in your child’s homework, even the most brightest child may struggle, if you don’t pay attention to their homework they will show less attention in school and play up.

So they are my 6 main things I have picked up on, obviously in a  perfect world we would be there 24/7, UK schools would start teaching at the age of 7 and homewoork would be non existent.

My main point is take time even if it’s 5 or 10 minutes (longer if possible!) With your child one to one. Even if you have to lock the bathroom door and sit on the loo for a quick chat do it!

Posted in C-Section, Family, parent blogger, Pregnancy

C-sections are not easy …

I think I have heard every comment under the sun regarding c-sections the three main ones I seem to hear are “your too posh to push”, “your not a real mum” and “C-sections are the easy way out aren’t they?”

Yes those comments do hit hard but do you know what those comments seem to come from uneducated people. Many of the older generation and some of the younger generation too often say these sententances.

Why did I have two c-sections? Yes two well here we go

Bear was born on his due date, but due to me being so full of water I was in the hospital daily for a week and a half before he was born. In the end I asked to be induced, it was costing a fortune in petrol and hospital parking and to be honest I had enough of hospitals especially going Daily.  I was given a pill to start labour of and the contractions started, but i also had a reaction to the pill and had very high temperature and was shaking so much my heart rate went sky high and Bears dropped dramatically. Once they stabilised us, I was taken into a room to rest and see how labour progressed Hubs was sent home but I called him less than 3 hours later saying to come back.

We were put into the labour room and was put on the machines, it was very bizarre as the monitor was going mad with contractions and I couldn’t feel a thing. The next thing they broke my waters and it was painful, I was told to go for a walk. Nothing happened 6 hours later, The midwife from the previous night came back on shift and said no baby yet? By now it was Bears Due date, the consultant came along and gave me two options to give it another 6 hours where Bears heart rate was going sky high and very low again or to be taken to have a c-section. With the thought of the heart rates going crazy C-section was the safest solution.

The needle for the Epidural I lucky didn’t see as its meant to be really long. I was taken into surgery where it was nice and calm and Bear was born just 20 minutes later. The recovery was slow I had to stay in bed for a day and when I was up it was very hard to move around due to the surgery. I couldn’t lift or drive for around six to eight weeks.

It was a slow recovery and I certainly didn’t feel 100% after 6 weeks it took more than 3 months to feel physical mobile again.

With Bell Pregnancy went smoothly  until 7 months, when I could hardly walk let alone run around after Bear. The week before Bell was born I had a consultant appointment, and I burst into tears  I could hardly walk let alone drive. When she asked if I wanted a planned C-section I jumped at the chance the reason being I felt I wasn’t giving 100% to Bear, we hardly went out due to me not being able to move and when I did I was very uncomfortable. I think this is because of the previous epidural I had it messed with my back.

They booked me in for the following week and I managed to get child care for Bear his aunty came round at 7am in the morning and stayed at ours for the day. We went of and I was first on the list, yes I thought I would be in and out and could try and get home the next day, but nope this wasn’t the case. The Epidural need a double dose, Bell didn’t cry for one minute and I lost 2,5 liters of blood! If they didn’t stop the bleeding I would of had to have my womb taken out.

I went into surgery at 8.30am and was out in recovery at 11.30am. I didn’t get back to the room I was in until 8pm that night!

Recovery was a bit quicker surprisingly, maybe because I knew what to expect or that I had to recover a bit quicker as hubby would be back at work in a weeks time.

The long term effects are I suffer from Back ache, and I will always have a c-section pouch no amount of exercise will get rid of that. I don’t think having baby number three would be wise as It could be a lot worse and I have two beautiful children to think about if anything  bad happens, but who knows what the future will bring.

So if you think having a c-section is easy please think again, it is major surgery with a bonus of a beautiful baby at the end along with a scar at the bottom of your stomach.

Posted in baby, changing bags, essentials, Family, Kent Family, Life, parent blogger, pbloggeruk, Pink Lining

Things I would do…

Things I would do differently if I was lucky enough to have baby number three.

Bear was first born, we had almost everything for him from a state of the art travel system to a bouncer which sings and dances.
With Bell, we had all the essentials and the things we never used with Bear were of the list.


Now if I was ever lucky enough to have baby number 3… (never say never!) I would do a few things differently.

  • I would use reusable nappies – the costs soon add up with desposables and its mot good for the envioment and there are some super cute designs around now a days
  • Breastfeed, I couldn’t breastfeed with Bear or Bell but I would actually ask for support and have a good go.
  • Baby wear, with Bear toddling and Bell in the buggy it was easy to hold a hand and push but logically with two hands to hold and a buggy to push it wouldn’t be possible.
  • Baby led weaning, okay I did this with Bell and I would so do this again, it was so easy and laid back.
  • Vaccinate. Now I am doing so much research into this and the pros bad cons. I never researched this with Bell and Bear but I will certainly do it this time around.
  • Toilet training I would let baby do it when they are ready same as I did with Bell and Bear.
  • Travel system- I would just buy a stroller they are only rear facing for a max 4 months.
  • Car seat I would buy a car seat which went from birth to 4/5 years as I never actually got the car seat out of the car with Bell,  I  did very rarely with Bear, but not often.
  • Changing bags I would choose a Pink Lining one which would be compact as to be honest the changing bag ended up full of rubbish!
  • Toys I would buy a few as they soon grow out of them and I’m sure the baby would prefer playing with Bell or Bears toys….

What would you do differently if you had another baby? 

Posted in bonding, Family, Kent Family, love

Watching the bond grow part two…. 

Okay I am aware I’ve written about this before but this one is just a blog with some beautiful (taken on the phone!) Photos so through quality isn’t that great… but they have certainly captured the moment of bonding….

Ice cream time….

A week old and home…. 

I’m taking over your bed Bear….

Our first bundle…. (yep Bell won that one!)

You have never been to London before Bell, I will make sure your safe ….

I love you Bear.. 

Posted in birthday, Family, Food, Kent Family, Local life, parent blogger, pbloggeruk, unhealthy

Cake smash 2014

I never heard of a “Cake smash” when Bear was just approaching his 1st birthday. 

With Bell, I saw a few friends who mentioned about having a Cake smash photo shot.

I was very interested and went on to Google to find out what and why there was so much fascination about Cake smash photo shot.

A cake smash photo shot usually happens before or just after the babies birthday.

It is a photo shot where your child can destroy a cake and eat it too! 

It’s a chance to document a turning of age and hopefully create some magic memories…..

Yep unless your Bell who didn’t break up the cake and was more interested in the balloons! 

We headed of to a friend who does photography  (hubby does photos but he wasn’t impressed with this idea not sure why?) Anyway she had the room nicely set up and the cake was beautiful with icing and icing lace around.

We started of putting Bell in front of the cake she didn’t know what to do, we ended up breaking it up for her. 

Bell then actually started to mush, crunch and break it up.

She also ate a bit with Bears guidance! 

I have to say it was great fun but a serious waste of cake!!!

Would I do it again?? 

Yes I would… if I had the chance to! 

To have a look a look at More of Katie Cole photography please pop to her Facebook page for more information:

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Posted in Adventure, clothing, essentials, Family, Kent Family, parent blogger, pbloggeruk, son

Flash back to a day shopping….

Bear was around 18 months old, and we had a day shopping at our local shopping center. 

Bear was very slow in talking, his speech didn’t really start until he was almost two years old and he would not stop talking or parrorting everything everybody was saying. 

Bear had a growth spurt so we Popped out shopping as I didn’t have work, housework was done and to be honest I really needed to get out the house for a bit.

We had a slow walk around the shops, brought the essentials for Bear, spent the last of his birthday gift voucher and Popped into  the Disney store.

Whilst we were walking round. Bear spotted the balloon stall, he kept pointing to the helicopter balloon and I said to him (this sounds like I’m a naggy mum but to be honest I really didn’t want to buy a balloon!!!) , if he could say Helicopter I would buy it for him, we went into another shop and then went to make our way home. On the way back we passed the balloon stall again and as clear as day Bear pronounced Helicopter as clear as day… and true to my word I brought the balloon. I was very proud as Helicopter is a very hard word to say at 19 months old!!!!

So my warning here is be careful what you say as it may leave you out of pocket…. 

Posted in Adventure, Beach, Best things in life are free, Explore the culture, Explore the world, Family, Kent Family, New Blogger, parent blogger, Sunshine after the rain, thoughtfullness, Uncategorized

The Simple Things

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The simple things in life are free, dancing in the rain, to seeing nature bloom and spending time together. Money doesn’t buy happiness it doesn’t buy sadness either. You learn to live within your means. You grow confidence in becoming a teenager, a adult and a parent you learn through the good and you learn through the bad.

You learn that people who make up lies are insecure of themselves and want others to feel insecure themselves.

You learn Bullies or Trolls will sometimes not say things to your face but some hide behind others or behind a screen. They will talk bad about you behind your back and your friends will always be true. You learn to stand tall and you learn to remember that life is too short to hide away, you learn to be proud of who you have become and realize you won’t go down to their level.

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You learn that the loneliness people are usually the most kindest people you will ever meet. You learn the generous people are usually the one’s who have nothing to give or if they do they don’t want anything in return. You learn the happiest people may have some sadness in their lives but will always be positive throughout everything. You learn the positive thinking people are usually the most confidant people you will ever meet.

You learn that the truth will always come through. You learn that everyone hopes they will follow their dreams and many people do with the support of family, friends and the confidence within themselves.

The best things in life are free, you certainly realize that as you get older and have children or grandchild. Expensive holiday’s, clothes, cars, phone’s and joining groups and clubs ( even though they are great for social skills!)  aren’t what will make your children happy it’s spending time with them. They won’t remember how much you spent on things its how much time you spent with them which will away’s matter.

They won’t remember the bad day’s you have, they will remember the happy times they have had with you. They won’t want for anything other than love, affection and honesty from you. Which will help them develop into kind, caring, loving adults.

They will learn that the little things in life are always the best and the free things in life will become the most amazing memories they have.

I am saying this as Bear only seems to remember the trips we have taken which didn’t cost the earth, he remembers going to the beach and building sand castles and splashing in the sea, he remember’s playing in the paddling pool at his great nanas with his cousins, he remembers playing with his friends in the garden. He remembers going to the nature trail when he was younger or playing in the swimming pool when we are away abroad. He remembers the simple things like making pizza and cutting his own vegetables and helping me make dinner.

So you see children seem to remember the simple things, the things which don’t cost the earth, things which are free. Please do not get me wrong, I love a holiday aboard it helps develop their understanding of different cultures and to see the world. But as I get older and wiser I certainly realize the little things are the things which you will remember more.

 

 

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Precious time with Bell and Bear

I’m sure many parents have day’s that they wish it nearly bedtime. Mine are usually when Bell is up most of the night, and I am shattered.
But to be honest I rather them be up and spending quality time with them both. Life is far too short, children grow up so quickly.
Please do not get me wrong I would love 5 minutes peace, but I would certainly miss them or worry they are causing havoc somewhere!

Posted in creativity, Family, Home made, Kent Family, New Blogger, parent blogger

How to display child’s art…. 

Please please do not get me wrong but I can not stand children’s art work stuck to the fridge, cupboard doors or the wall. I know it sounds strange I am a mum of two after all, but I think children’s art work should be displayed nicely after all they have put their hard work into their creations. 

I’m sure they wouldn’t mind where it’s displayed but as parents we should be showing pride in our children’s work especially when it comes to displaying, plus it lasts longer if displayed in a nice frame.

There are a few apps about now where you can take a photo of your child’s work and store then in a year or so create a beautiful photo book for them to cherish.
I will be doing this as of September, just researching the different apps and trying to find the best one for my family as after all it will need to store two children’s work!

At the moment we have brought some frames from Tesco and Sainsburys. They cost £4-5 which to me is a bargin. 

They also look really nice on the wall too and make the children feel like mini artists.

We also love canvas painting, we have to use acrylic paint for them to last, but it is worth it. We do a canvas painting once a year and it’s amazing how their painting skills develop. 
We also try and do one as a family too but we have unfortunately only managed it once in 2014!