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he manic few weeks!

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The last few weeks have been totally manic, I have worked full time for the last two weeks, I am still blogging, lots of half done posts.

The reason everything is half done is because my phone broke and I lost all my photos and videos.

I am also working on becoming a self employed child carer. I am currently a self employed Nanny/Babysitter. But as a mum to two I am now looking to spread my wings into offering advice and help mums and dad’s get routine to their lives, to help with all aspects of Weaning/sleeping/potty training.

I may not be every parents ideal child carer as I am a pretty laid back mum, but this would be my dream job. I am currently doing lots of free courses on open university and updating my knowledge.

There will be a added section in my blog soon full of parenting tips and tricks which I hope will help expand into my new business venture.

What do you find works with your own children?

By the way the feature photo is just to get your attention!

Posted in Adventure, back to school, holidays, parent blogger

IT’S HALF TERM!!!

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Here are some of the things we will be getting up to this half term!

Explore the outside

Get Crafty

Learn something new

Have a breakfast or Lunch out somewhere

Visit A Castle

Visit the nature Trail

Dressing up

Make some Arm pit fudge

DVD time

A trip to the Cinema!

Okay it doesn’t sound exciting but with Christmas fast approaching money is tight. With autumn being mild, we are able to get out and about and explore the local area a bit more too, as well as taking full advantage for our National Trust Memberships.

We will also be making some pictures to go into frames for relatives for Christmas presents, as requested by my aunt and cousin.

Now just the rest of the family to sort!

Posted in parent blogger, photography, photos

Photographs

One thing which has always fascinated me is History. I just love finding out about the past and how people used to live.

Photographs can tell a million different stories, Louis Daguerre  had the right idea he designed one of the early cameras in 1839, but their were two people before him who attempted to design a camera also.

Having Photographs can open so many emotions. It can open uncertainty, it can open happiness and it can open sadness.

I came across a photo recently of mum, she is sitting crying. I don’t know why,  but I can tell from the photo it was when we lived in Downham and it was a beautiful summers day. Another photo I came across was of my dad’s dad, my granddad on a trip to America when I was younger his wearing a clown hat, and his eyes are shining and he looked so happy and relaxed. He was with most of his children and grandchildren what more could a guy want to be surrounded by the ones he loved. I also remember thinking I was the luckiest girl in the world to be in Disney! I think we went for around 3 weeks!!!!

I love all the photo’s I take of my two. I prefer the non staged ones where they are not paying any attention to what I am doing, where they aren’t being told to stand there and smile. I think they show the true personality of them.

Here are a few of my favourite photos, yes some are done by my amazing friend Katie. We also have some amazing photos done by the very talented Nicky at NPphotography who did our pre wedding Photoshoot and our beautiful wedding day.

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Now these are my favourite un-edited, not staged photos!

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If you would like to see more of my photos and follow Bell and Bears adventures please pop over to my Instagram account.

 

Posted in Best things in life are free, Cleaning, Family

Are we expecting to much of our self’s of mum’s  (and dads) 

Reading through a post on Facebook, regarding how much housework we should be doing as a SAHM or SAHD  (for those who don’t know they mean stay at home mummy or dad) and are your houses always untidy.

God yes! There are real mums and dads who’s houses aren’t unclean but are messy with toys, books and general clutter of children. 

I am currently sitting in my living room with coco pops under the table  (the Dyson is charging but also hoping the cats may take a liking to them) toys all over the floor and the covers from the sofa are still in the putting away/back on pile and they have been there since last week, thank goodness for throws and pillows to cover the sofa… 

Anyway are we expecting to much of our self’s? Should I still have coco pops on the floor, should I have got the heavy hoover out and hoovered up 2 minutes before we had to leave for school and run the risk of Bear being late? 

I’d rather leave the coco pops on the floor for a extra ten minutes than Bear being late for school. 

I remember growing up the house was always tidy and clean, nothing was out of place, the toys lived in the cupboard under the stairs and that’s where they went when I finished with them. The washing machine was always on and the bedding was changed weekly and dinner was always dished up dead on 5.30. 

Obviously I didn’t get the clean and tidy bit from my mum, I hate cleaning! 

Anyway enough of my ramblings here are some tips to help you. 

  1. Rota the housework everything doesn’t need to be done daily! 
  2. Plan a meal rota (I’ve just started but so far it’s a life saver!)
  3. If your child is poorly sit and cuddle, housework can wait a poorly child on the other hand can’t.
  4. Deligate housework, if and your partner work (Even if one of you is full time) help each other don’t leave everything to one person being a SAHM/SAHD is actually harder than it looks! 
  5. Don’t critizes your partner or wife/husband if the place is untidy when you get home from work, the main important thing is the children are safe and happy.
  6. Always remember the children aren’t always going to be living at home one day you will have the house all to yourself and wish it was cluttered with toys again.

So you get the gist you don’t have to be supermum, superdad or superhuman, the house doesn’t need to be spotless and tidy 24/7 it’s okay to leave the dishes in the sink over night, it’s okay to not do the washing every day or change the bedding a few days later than you would do normally! 

Breath, relax and enjoy the children whilst they are young. I know a few people may disagree to this but remember everyone is different do what’s best for you. 

By the way my oven needs a clean and I still need to hoover ek! 

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Posted in Best things in life are free

Today I got thinking…. 

How much one to one time do I actually spend with each child… obviously I spend a lot more time with Bell than I do with  Bear as his now in full time education. But now Bell is getting to be a less of a a mummys girl (don’t it’s sad times) and more of I will stay with daddy without the emotional tears and tantrums which used to come with it… I have promised myself I will spend some one to one time with Bear. 

Even if it’s just to Tesco or a quick drive to collect petrol, as we all know money can be tight some times,  those 5 to 10 minutes can actually improve a child’s behaviour. 

Why? 

Because they aren’t trying to fight for attention with other siblings or your husband/partner, who could be their dad or their step parent. 

One to one time is actually beneficial  for both a adult and of course more importantly the child. 

With 16 years of child care behind me I have noticed the following of why a child could play up. I am obviously not a expert in child behaviour.

But here it goes….

  1. Negative speech towards a child,if your always given negative commnets to a child he or she may or will play on those comments as they will feel that they can’t do nothing better.
  2. You work part-time but your always putting your child in clubs, I know how annoying children can be. But the importance of spending time with a child and helping and taking time out for your child should come first!
  3. Always on your phone, okay even I am guilty of this put the phone down for 10 minutes and have a conversation with your child it’s not hard seriously ask how their day has been, who they played with simple things will make sure your child will feel they are valued
  4. Who always picks up? Yes this is tricky as many parents work long hours now a days but if your at home and it’s always your wife picking up from school but she works from home and your at home with the youngest swap roles, let dad pick up and have a conversation. Obviously if you can, it will make the world of good
  5.  Limit Ipad time, I swear this is the route of all evil, this is why children play up, this is why the art of conversation is dying out. You would be surprised at how many children get in from school and sit glued to the Ipad until dinner is ready!
  6. Last but not least take a interest in your child’s homework, even the most brightest child may struggle, if you don’t pay attention to their homework they will show less attention in school and play up.

So they are my 6 main things I have picked up on, obviously in a  perfect world we would be there 24/7, UK schools would start teaching at the age of 7 and homewoork would be non existent.

My main point is take time even if it’s 5 or 10 minutes (longer if possible!) With your child one to one. Even if you have to lock the bathroom door and sit on the loo for a quick chat do it!

Posted in Blog, Family, parent blogger, pbloggeruk, Sleep

Who needs sleep part 4

Bear is actually sleeping really really well this week. I’m not sure why?

Maybe its because the mornings are slightly darker and autumn has kicked in.

Maybe he is actually eating more, and we have a lock on the kitchen door.(I found 4 wrappers of chocolate, two cake cases and a yogurt, the other morning!)

But this week it is Bell who isn’t sleeping. Bell was up last night every hour, crying for no reason. (checked temperature, pull up was dry, water cup was fall and the muslin was there)

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I have ruled out night terrors as she isn’t in a deep enough sleep to get into a deep sleep for them to start. I have ruled out teething too!

I’m starting to wonder if she is going to bed over tired but she is going to bed at 6.30pm so its not actually late, I suppose it could be too early? But her bed time has always been 6.30-7pm.

Who knows!

I’m Hoping for a better night tonight so fingers crossed!!!

Posted in back to school, Kent Family, parent blogger, pbloggeruk, pre-school, Sleep

Who needs sleep part 3

I think this week is going to be much better, I am not sure if its pure exhaustion or the nights and mornings are slowly drawing in who knows but I think this week will be better!

Day one week 2

Last night we had the usual bedtime routine bath and bed all by 7pm, and guess what Bear slept in until 5,30! I know that’s still early but it beats 4.30!

Day two week 2

What is happening! 4.30 am is seriously not a good time, we haven’t done anything different at all either! Bear is going to be moody today!

Day three week 2

Yay 6am! 6am! finally a decent hour, not sure why he got up at 4.30 am yesterday but yay!!! One happy mumma, shame Bell woke up 4 times in the night look’s like her turn to be moody!

day four week 2

5.45am, why oh why do the times keep changing! Just why? I need sleep, I turn moody and grumpy without sleep and I am trying to cut my sugar habit as well which isn’t going well

Day five week 2

Yay! 6.30am I could get used to this and Bell feel asleep at 9pm last night, what is going on with them if its not one its the other!

day 6 week 2

6.30am! yay this is better, Bear is 100% less grumpy and so is Bell! Bath time is at 6.30 and bed is at 7pm, I’m guessing its the whole new routine of school and nursery kicking in!

Day seven week 2

Oh great! 5.30 am from Bear, we were doing so so well too! Oh well week three will be a better week, but saying that this week has been pretty good!

 

Posted in history, hospital, parent blogger, thoughtfullness, vaccines

Vaccine Series Part 2 The chicken Pox vaccine

In the UK we can now privately get the chicken pox vaccine it costs around £300-450 for one injection and you need two. So that would cost £600-900 or more depending on how many children you have and also if you have the money to spare! Mine would cost £1,800 if I got my children vaccinated.

What is chicken pox? 

It is a infectious disease which causes a mild fever and a rash of inflamed pimples, which blister and then loose scabs. It mainly effects children.

The signs for chicken pox are

Feeling sick, high temperature, feeling aches, headache and loss of appetite. The usual symptoms are difficulty breathing and signs of dehydration. 

So why is there a vaccine for Chicken pox when many children and adults tend to feel unwell for a maximum of a week, the vaccine is a live vaccine and contains a small amount of weakened chicken pox virus and the vaccine stimulates the immune system to produce antibodies that will help protect..It also contains a small amount of DNA 

Anybody else feeling a bit wary that you are actually being vaccinated with the live virus of chicken pox and human DNA when in reality you may not even carry the virus. It will apparently help develop the immunity against chicken pox. 

Yes people and children could die from chicken pox but this is very rare and work the cases usually involves the children having calpol which stops the fever, which helps the body fighting of infections, not the right diet to help fight the virus. The fever is the body’s way of helping get rid of the virus. 

The vaccine contains animal blood from animals which have been killed for meat, the sodium phosphate is used to stop any allergic reactions, there is also human DNA in vaccines. 

So my theory is the vaccine isn’t worth doing. Yes it may protect but it may not protect, especially since the death toll without the vaccine has dropped from 20 a year to 2-3 a year and this is before the vaccine program started in the UK.

So please think before you vaccine do your research and make your own choice.  

Posted in back to school, creativity, Family, Kent Family, parent blogger, pre-school

Bell’s First Week at Preschool

Bell has had her first week at preschool, by week I mean she attends three days a week until 1pm.

Monday morning she was so excited helped pack her packed lunch bag, and kept saying “I am going to Preschool”. She got dressed with a bit of help and let me put her hair in a bunch, she even wore Bear’s old preschool jumper it swamped her!

Bell went in without any tears and played happily, the preschool even sent a text letting me know she was okay, which was lovely.

All afternoon Bell was asking to go back to see Hearn the dog and to play with her friends.

Tuesday was fine too, but Wednesday! Bell was fine got ready as usual, helped pack her packed lunch, walked to preschool fine but nope I went to leave and she cried and screamed and screamed.  She will be fine, the ladies said they were of to play in the garden and she was having cuddle’s with Bears old keyworker when I left….

The fun of parenting, I am sure they do the tears to make you feel guilty for leaving them, but I promise and I know from experience working in nursery’s that they will be fine after a few minutes.

Bell was fine when I picked her up!

 

Posted in Explore the culture, Explore the world, Family, Life, life skills, parent blogger, School, summer holidays, Sunshine after the rain

And we are back to school…..

Seriously where have the last 5.5 years gone?! Bear is now in year 1 at school!

Bear has turned into the most caring, kind, compassionate, challenging, adventures little boy. And I grew him!

Year one is going to be a challenge, I don’t think him and his friends realise there will be less playing and more working in year 1. I don’t think they know how much homework they will be getting or how much. I have tried to prepare Bear for the fact that year one is going to be more sitting down and working than free play, whilst learning. We are going to be doing lots more things at home whether or not he has home work or not. We are going to get more involved in growing plants, doing a few science experiments, visiting some fun places and of course reading. I have promised if Bear improves and concentrates on reading he can have his own Kindle fire for Christmas or his birthday. It won’t have apps or games on it will just be for reading!

Here are a few pics from when Bear was younger!