Seriously where have the last 5.5 years gone?! Bear is now in year 1 at school!
Bear has turned into the most caring, kind, compassionate, challenging, adventures little boy. And I grew him!
Year one is going to be a challenge, I don’t think him and his friends realise there will be less playing and more working in year 1. I don’t think they know how much homework they will be getting or how much. I have tried to prepare Bear for the fact that year one is going to be more sitting down and working than free play, whilst learning. We are going to be doing lots more things at home whether or not he has home work or not. We are going to get more involved in growing plants, doing a few science experiments, visiting some fun places and of course reading. I have promised if Bear improves and concentrates on reading he can have his own Kindle fire for Christmas or his birthday. It won’t have apps or games on it will just be for reading!
The simple things in life are free, dancing in the rain, to seeing nature bloom and spending time together. Money doesn’t buy happiness it doesn’t buy sadness either. You learn to live within your means. You grow confidence in becoming a teenager, a adult and a parent you learn through the good and you learn through the bad.
You learn that people who make up lies are insecure of themselves and want others to feel insecure themselves.
You learn Bullies or Trolls will sometimes not say things to your face but some hide behind others or behind a screen. They will talk bad about you behind your back and your friends will always be true. You learn to stand tall and you learn to remember that life is too short to hide away, you learn to be proud of who you have become and realize you won’t go down to their level.
You learn that the loneliness people are usually the most kindest people you will ever meet. You learn the generous people are usually the one’s who have nothing to give or if they do they don’t want anything in return. You learn the happiest people may have some sadness in their lives but will always be positive throughout everything. You learn the positive thinking people are usually the most confidant people you will ever meet.
You learn that the truth will always come through. You learn that everyone hopes they will follow their dreams and many people do with the support of family, friends and the confidence within themselves.
The best things in life are free, you certainly realize that as you get older and have children or grandchild. Expensive holiday’s, clothes, cars, phone’s and joining groups and clubs ( even though they are great for social skills!) aren’t what will make your children happy it’s spending time with them. They won’t remember how much you spent on things its how much time you spent with them which will away’s matter.
They won’t remember the bad day’s you have, they will remember the happy times they have had with you. They won’t want for anything other than love, affection and honesty from you. Which will help them develop into kind, caring, loving adults.
They will learn that the little things in life are always the best and the free things in life will become the most amazing memories they have.
I am saying this as Bear only seems to remember the trips we have taken which didn’t cost the earth, he remembers going to the beach and building sand castles and splashing in the sea, he remember’s playing in the paddling pool at his great nanas with his cousins, he remembers playing with his friends in the garden. He remembers going to the nature trail when he was younger or playing in the swimming pool when we are away abroad. He remembers the simple things like making pizza and cutting his own vegetables and helping me make dinner.
So you see children seem to remember the simple things, the things which don’t cost the earth, things which are free. Please do not get me wrong, I love a holiday aboard it helps develop their understanding of different cultures and to see the world. But as I get older and wiser I certainly realize the little things are the things which you will remember more.
I know I have said it before but Cancer truly suck’s! Bear and Bell have truly given me plenty of sunshine through the rain, since mum passed away from cancer.
They are happy, content children. They do have tantrums, they can be horrible as they are both stubborn and there is no reasoning with them when they have their tantrums!
Bringing up stubborn children is so hard, most probley as I am stubborn too.
We now have a reward chart for good behavior and helpfulness inside and outside the home.
We have a Gro-Clock for Bear (and Bell). It is mostly for Bear as he has been waking up at 4.45am for the day. What with Bell waking up 2-3 times a night I was exhasuted! Physically and Emotionally. Things are getting so much better now we have the Gro-Clock we have set the Sun to come up at 6.30 am and it does work most day’s.
Bell is still waking up for milk but we have swapped milk for just water so hopefully in a few days or a couple of week’s she will sleep all night.
But apart from the sleeping , or lack of it they are certainly my sunshine after the rain….