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Learning, books and Ipads

When I was younger, there wasn’t Google, Yahoo or ask jeeves to search your research we used books.

Everything now a days you can find out from searching the Internet, whether that’s from your phone, tablet, laptop or computer. Everything is at the touch of a button.
Even some schools  relay on Internet for children to search for information if they are doing a project. 

This got me thinking about when Bear and Bell start to research for projects or wanting to find out more about something they have learnt at school. Will I allow them to just jump on the Ipad and search what they want to know, or will I encourage them to find a book and read from there what they need to know… 

As you may know if you follow my twitter and Instagram I love books, and I mean LOVE books,  I really wish I had a bigger place so I could start my own library, with a comfy chair and some lovely cushions… I can dream.. anyway what was I saying…

So you may of gathered by now I would 100% encourage them to read books to find out the information they need. 

Why will limit the amount of time let them use the tablets? 

Technology devises give of small amounts of radiation, which isn’t good for anybody! 

It encourages poor posture and strains the eyes.

It over excites the brain! Which then would make the children not be able to fall asleep easily.

You can get so many different books to find out information, you can get books from places you visit, books for helping learn maths, about your body, flap books, feely books the list goes on and on.

And reading a book is so much more beneficial then sitting on a tablet/Ipad, as you can’t guarantee the correct spellings or punctuation on the website! Maybe I am such a book worm that I really hope that one day Bell and Bear will love reading as much as I do.

Posted in Family, Kent Family, Life, life skills, parent blogger, thoughtfullness

Being a Mother without a Mother 

You problay guessed from my previous blog that I 100% think cancer sucks! 

If you haven’t have a scroll down for a read…

This is problay one of the hardest posts I have written. But guess what people need to know what it’s like to be a mum without a Mother.  Yes I have family, my cousin is practically mummy number 2 to Bell and Bear. I have my aunts and grandmothers too to ask for advice but you know what as much as I adore them it’s so not the same picking up the phone or popping round to see your own mum. 

Cancer has stolen so much, it’s stolen the connection of my mum watching me become a mum, watching her grandchildren grow and nature. Missed ny wedding day (but thats another post!) Having me phone up asking totally random questions, her offering to take a load of washing, or having the children during the day so I can do housework. Missing my mum seeing her grandchildren take their first step ladder, first word, first tooth, first day of school the list goes on and on.

It’s hard hearing people moan and complain and wish their mum would back of and let them bring up their children without any interference. Even though I know I would probably be the same too! 

Some people say that being a parent changes you and you really don’t know the bond you actually feel when you have your own children. It’s very hard to comprehend especially when you are motherless or fatherless. 

Each step your child makes, makes you think that someone is missing, someone should be there with you, other than your other half, husband or wife. It should be your mum. 

When your feeling poorly and you struggle through the day when all you really want is to call your mum up and she comes straight over and tells you to go to bed. 

Like I said I do have amazing cousins and my aunts but they work practically 24/7 So it’s very hard to be able to do this. 

I feel guilty that my mother in law sees the children weekly, and my mum is missing out. 

The world certainly changes, when your a mum I wouldn’t know if it would be easier if mum was here or not but if your mum is still about please don’t take leave her out of your children’s lives. You are so luckily she is offering to help, annoy you, buy the children endless amounts of sweets and magazines, clothes you may not like and give them junk food! 

Let them have the relationship as my two certainly won’t have a relationship with my mum

People who haven’t lost a mum or dad (I mean this in the nicest of ways obviously!!) Really really do not understand the emotions going through the mind of somebody who has lost their mum or their father. It doesn’t matter how old you are when you lose your mum it 100% doesn’t get any easier, the pain may ease but it’s always and always will be the first and last thing you think about during your child’s day to day life’s.  

Posted in Explore the culture, Explore the world, Family, Life, life skills, parent blogger, School, summer holidays, Sunshine after the rain

And we are back to school…..

Seriously where have the last 5.5 years gone?! Bear is now in year 1 at school!

Bear has turned into the most caring, kind, compassionate, challenging, adventures little boy. And I grew him!

Year one is going to be a challenge, I don’t think him and his friends realise there will be less playing and more working in year 1. I don’t think they know how much homework they will be getting or how much. I have tried to prepare Bear for the fact that year one is going to be more sitting down and working than free play, whilst learning. We are going to be doing lots more things at home whether or not he has home work or not. We are going to get more involved in growing plants, doing a few science experiments, visiting some fun places and of course reading. I have promised if Bear improves and concentrates on reading he can have his own Kindle fire for Christmas or his birthday. It won’t have apps or games on it will just be for reading!

Here are a few pics from when Bear was younger!

Posted in Explore the world, life skills, more to life, NASA, parent blogger, pbloggeruk, Space

In the end… 

In the end life is a journey, a journey to become the best we can be. We mess up, we don’t mess up, we live life to the full, we hide way in the shadows.

But where does our journey end? Does it end when we die? Does it end when we full fill everything we need to do, by this we keep getting reincarnated to achieve this. Do we start of as small  bugs, at the bottom of the food chain and work our way up to become humans? Is their life after life on earth? Is Earth actually the place to learn from our mistakes before we go to another planet or universe.

Do we get reincarnated until we get it right before we move to another planet in another universe?

I don’t think anybody would truly know what happens when we die. Nobody as of yet has found life on other planets of our solar system. Mars has been proven that it once had water on. Were we really ment to live on Mars and our past lives destroyed the planet so much we had to move here to Earth? Are we really ment to have 25 hours a day and stay away from the sun. That is one of the theories I have read, it could be logical as Mars has a 25 hour day and is away from the sun.

I think I have lived before, I am very drawn to history especially Victoriana era and I love space.

What will happen to our planet if we keep destroying it?

There are so many questions I am asking, I will have to start researching this a bit more.

I personally think it’s fascinating that there could be so much more to our journey, the world and space that we are yet to discover the new ideas and views we could come across.

Do you believe in reincarnation, other lives?

Photos used from NASA free images section.

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Why I still choose what Bear and Bell wear…

I think I have a OCD in dressing my children, I can not stand mix match Pjs or clothes which don’t go together.

It makes me feel uneasy.

I don’t know why, it just does! I know I should encourage independence in encouraging them choosing their own clothes but I can’t do it… not just yet.

I am very lucky that Bear is very laid back and seems to wear what I lay out. Bell too most days. I do give them choices don’t get me wrong. They can choose out of two or three outfits. Usually they mix and match so I make sure that they all go together in some way or another.

Bell is getting very independent and is a proper girlie girl and has  mind of her own when she dresses herself!

Luckily she seems to make sure the clothes goes together, unlike Bear.

When Hubs gets the children ready for bed he seems to think mix match PJS are okay to wear… (they are but just not in our house) I have been  known to wake the children up and redress them!

I sort of keep their clothes simple and almost 60%of their clothes go with everything eles they have.

Underwear etc for some reason do not need to match! Maybe because I can’t see it and we have done the whole toilet training where they ended up with mix match vest and pants by 10am…

I am dreading the time when Bell and Bear choose their own clothes and they don’t match!

Posted in Family, girl, handy tips, Kent Family, life skills, parent blogger, pbloggeruk, son, thoughtfullness

Elf on the Shelf….

This post is Christmas related ….. 

Have you heard of Elf on the Shelf? 
No? 

Okay… to me it’s a very American tradition. The Elf which arrives on the 1st December every year. The Elf is sent by Father Christmas to come and keep a eye out on your child and make sure they are being good so they can stay on the nice list.

Every family seems to do things differently. 

Last year (2015) we had Buddy the naughty Elf to visit. Oh he was a pickle he ate all the chocolates out the sweet box, he swung from the light shades and he even knocked over the Christmas tree amongst other things. 

Bear and Bells favourite thing last year was their pants and knickers on the Christmas tree! 

Some families have a nice Elf come to stay. They do really helpful and kind things. They leave notes to say thank you for having me, bring some thing of the children’s favourite things, leave the chocolate box untouched, do the ironing and the hoovering. 

I’m hoping the nice Elf comes this year.

The Elf goes Christmas eve morning so he can help santa prepare for the long night he has ahead of him… He leaves  nice breakfast and a Christmas eve box which has new pj’s, dvd, hot chocolate and a snack.

Will you be having a visit from A Elf this year? I hope we do…..  

Posted in Home made, Kent Family, Life, life skills, New Blogger, parent, parent blogger, past life, pbloggeruk

Knitting is not just a hobby 

Knitting is really not just a hobby to me. 

Yes I still try and find time to knit with two children, part time job and a house to run! 

It’s relaxing and it’s so easy to do once I got the knack of it! 

I am currently knitting a blanket for the winter it’s not going two bad BUT I am using a mix of thick and thin wool or yarn so it is going to look a bit mix match! 

I have a wide range of needles, yarn/wool and I even have something which makes circles. I haven’t mastered that bit yet! 

It’s relaxing as it can be. I always thought of knitting as a old persons hobby, but it really isn’t. Looking back on the history many people especially young ladies used to knit and sew in the war. I think it gave them something of a destraction from what was going on especially when  it was the war time. 

I started collecting Simply knitting magazine, but I have recently stopped as I can now actually find .any of the knitting patterns I want on line. And the bits were soon adding up! 

But saying that I will still buy the odd magazine about knitting! 

I also think skills like knitting, sewing are dying out. People are so quick to replace a item instead of repair it now a days. I will be hunting for a children’s sewing and knitting kit and will be teaching Bear and Bell these simple life skills. 

What is your hobby or how do you like to relax?? 

Posted in Family, Kent Family, Life, life skills, parent blogger, swimming

Why I think Swimming is Important …

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Why do I think Swimming is Important?

I can swim, I am just not a very strong swimmer!

When Bear was one we were gifted some money to go towards swimming lessons, It was seriously the best Money and obviously one of the Kindest and the most beneficial present he got that year.

As he grew we continued with his lessons, but changed swim schools as we felt he wasn’t improving at the swim school we started with and was more standing by the side.

When Bell was born we would scrimp and save to pay for their lessons, Until the Christmas when Bell was just over one. My dad kindly paid for both of their swimming lessons, as he rather buy them something they will get the most from and obviously swimming is very high on his list!  It has kind of continued to be like this for Christmas and birthdays. It works well as we only now pay half of the swimming bill. (Lucky grandchildren!)

Anyway back to why its important!

When I was pregnant with Bell, we were in Ibiza and Bear fell into the swimming pool as a older child ran passed as lost his balance. (the child did say sorry in German) I was sitting down next to the pool!

As the life guard came over Bear managed to swim to the side all by himself at the age of almost 2.5 years old!

It was the first time we saw the lessons were paying of!

So if there is one thing I would say is if you want to splash out some mony on your child for a class swimming would be one!