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Why do… 

Why do other parents judge other parents? 

Seriously parenting is a amaxing special journey for everyone in everyone’s own way. Some are very laid back and some are very serious. Some parents feed their children a totally organic diet, some people feed their children totally on processes food. Some parents go vegan or vegetarian. And some parents breastfeed until their child is 3 to 4 years old. Who are we to judge?

Some parents want their children to look clean and respectable at all times and some really don’t mind if they are covered in mud from head to toe! Obviously going to a wedding covered in mud wouldn’t be wise would it? 

Most of us are either parents or have been parents. Why do people feel they need to judge when your darling child is having a full blown tantrum in Tesco or at the play park . I’m sure we have all been there where we have had somebody who is clearly a parent with  their anglic child sitting in the trolley whilst yours is pulling everything from the shelfs and they are giving you a strange look, or worse tutting at the behaviour.  
The little baby in the buggy refusing his or her nap time and mum or dad is walking down the street looking exhausted because they have been rocking their little prince or princess for the last 30 minutes to try and get them to settle and decing a nice walk may just do the trick.

I just want to say we have all been there. All we should be doing is praising every mum,dad and anyone who has the role of a parent. We should be supporting the mum who’s toddler has thrown herself on the floor because she doesn’t want to leave the play park. We should be high fiving the dad who’s said no to the son who wants a magazine but he isn’t allowed because he threw a  toy at his sister earlier that day. Support and Compassion is all a parent needs. Not judging the parent or the child. We need to remember we have all been there at one time or another.

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The world is changing…

The world is changing at a scary place. People seem to be loosing the compassion and kindness to others. The community spirt which once was is slowly fading if not already dying out. 

There was a saying I remember from college “it takes a village to raise a child”. This is very true. Back in the 1940’s (and probably before and after that date too) people would watch over people’s children whilst they nipped to the shops, helped each other without wanting anything in return. Helped if there was a problem and called the emergency services if need. 


Now let’s skip forward to 2016. Where smart phones seem to be out when somebody does something wrong so people can shame them via Facebook and other media outlets. Where people stand and film somebody being attacked or in a accident. What happened to talking to people or writing a polite description or just say “hi if you were her between 9 and 10am please contact me” 
What happened to reporting things to the police before you name and shame. There was a post regarding a local shopping center of a attempted abduction of a child. Before I shared (it was already shared by 100 ‘s of people) I sent a quick email and the shopping centre didn’t know anything about it and the lady blocked the account from them. Where do people get of with lies and shaming people for no reason?

Why do people think it’s fine to get away with shaming and accusing people? 

With so much technology there is now cyber bullying also known as trolling. This can happen to anybody you can be at work, school, blogger or just somebody minding your own businesses. If it happens to you do report it the police take this seriously. It can destroy families and lives. 

There is so much voilance in the world it is a daily occurnace. The good things people do are hardly mentioned. The bad things how ever are. With growing threat of terrorism around the world most countries are on high alert. 

I’m not saying there wasn’t terrorism back in the 1940’s or before that date. There were wars the biggest terriosim of all. 

I’m not saying the world will get worse, I’m not saying this world will get better. What I am saying is if everybody makes a little difference, going to speak to the mum who looks unhappy at a toddler group, helping somebody get a trolley or help get something down of the shelf, a simple smile, a simple please and thank you will slowly make the world become a better place and hopefully compassion and kindness will return. 

Posted in Adventure, Family, Food, Healthy eating, Home made, New Blogger, parent blogger, Vegetables, weaning

Let’s talk about weaning… 

So your beautiful son or daughter has hit  6 months of age. 
It’s time to start thinking about weaning.

This journey will be messy I won’t lie. But it will be  one of the funniest adventures you will have. Some of the faces they pull will certainly make you laugh. (Photos of Bell during the weaning phase)


It could be frustrating trying to find out what type of weaning works well for your child . 

There are three types of weaning 

1- spoon feeding 

2- baby lead weaning 

3 – spoon and baby lead weaning 

Spain fed weaning is where you control feeding your child, you can use jars or make your own food. I did this type with Bear.

Baby lead weaning (BLW for short) is where you give your child some bite size food and they have a go at feeding themselves. We did this type of weaning with Bell.

BLW and spoon fed is a mixture of both and could work well with a busy family life.

The important thing about weaning is to encourage your child to try lots of new flavours. We used jars with Bear but I found they actually didn’t taste that nice and he wasn’t that keen so we ended up blending up fruit and vegetables from our meal and freezing and heating up when we needed them. Which he loved. He also loved Ella’s kitchen pouches these say they are home made and they taste yum! 

There are many types of snacks too available on the high street from bread sticks to rice cakes. 

Bell was BLW she helped herself to my Yorkshire pudding a week away from 6 months so I left her to it and she did really well. 

Some great foods to try pureered or mashed are 
Carrots

Bananas

Parsnip

Broccoli 

Califlour

Apple

Pea

You can try mixing them together too.

And there are a lot more fruit and vegetables  too! 

Baby lead weaning foods 

Is everything and anything. We did avoid peanuts until 2 years old though and shellfish until a 1 year old though. 

I also suggest sitting with your child and eat with them, it encourages good eating habits and it’s also a great social experience . But I understand this isn’t suitable for all when they are so young. 

If making your own food or if buying your own food (jars, pouches) check salt and sugar contents you will actually be surprised at the amount of sugar and salt many meals contain these. 

I was told by my Health visitor to skip baby rice as it isn’t beneficial for the child. 

Best bibs I found are the Tommee Tippee ones with the pouch to collect the food unless you have a dog or a cat who acts like a vacuume cleaner than I would not worry about the mess on the floor too much! 

Notes: please never leave your child unsupervised to eat and ensure that they can support their head. Also do not put anything ie baby rice or porridge in their bottle this can be a chocking hazard. 

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Our summer bucket list

Okay I am a bit late here I know almost two weeks into the holidays and I have only just got my bottom in gear to do a bucket list.

Oh well here it goes! Ours are pretty simple 

1- I really want to take my two to Hobbledown farm it’s ment to be amazing!

2- take the children bowling 

3- to the zoo

4- find some great hiding places at national trust properties

5- visit a UK seaside 

6- go on holiday 

7- go and pick your own strawberries and raspberries

8- have a pj’s day

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What Brexit means to me

If you don’t already know the United Kingdom has voted to leave the European Union. And also where have you been? 

Before the vote I was very adamant that we should leave the EU. After speaking to a small girl (I was babysitting she is also in secondery school) she tried to presuade me to vote stay. After thinking about it over night I asked on my local mums Facebook page. It reached over 1,000 comments and no idea how many likes in total for comments and likes for my actual post. It was very strange to see so many nice comments from both sides. It certainly made me realise that I was actually listing more to the media than finding out the real facts. 

I found myself thinking more and more about how I should vote and what would be best for my family.

If I voted to stay in the EU, Bell and Bear would have the opportunity to travel Europe without visas and attended college, university and live anywhere in the EU. 

We would have support from other countries. 

We would have a great import and export.

More business’s would want to come and have offices here.

And more importantly the amount the pound cost wouldn’t plummet. 

If I voted to leave the EU it would mean Bell and Bear wouldn’t have the opportunity to study and live in Europe freely they would have to apply for visas. 

We won’t be able to travel freely around Europe.

The pound may plummet. 

Businesses may leave London with the uncertainly of how we will cope being out the EU

People may loose their jobs.

the list can go on and on.

We have now had our vote and many people have voted to leave the European Union. Why? Many people have most probably been listing to media and saying it will make our country safer and the immigrants and migrants will be sent back home. But who knows what the main reason is.

I have friends who are from European countries and as we haven’t started the exit of the EU, article 50 is yet to be signed, there is so much uncertainly in what is going to happen. 

Am I worried? I am a bit but I am a firm beliver that what is ment to be will be and that what ever happens as a nation, a country and as the world it will make us stronger as a country and we will over come any challenges there are in the future.

 

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Trying new foods…..

Bear is the most fussiest child I have ever know.

I admit this is probably because when he was younger I only gave him foods I knew he would like and still did it when Bell came along.

When Bell got to weaning stage at (5 months, The NHS advise from 6 months). I knew 100% she was ready she was eyeing up my homemade Yorkshire pudding, so I gave her a bit and she loved it!

I always encouraged from a young age that they sit at the table with us, whether or not they were just having a bottle or having a cuddle whilst we ate. I think it’s a great way to encourage good eating habits and a good way of socializing. I remember many Saturday and Sunday’s sitting round the table with the whole family. We still do this now on a Saturday, which is great. Unfortunately due to swimming and other family commitments its getting harder and harder to do.

I love getting them to try new foods especially now they are bigger. Bear is getting better since he started school last year he is slowly but surly becoming less fussy.

Bell on the other hand was eating Calamari at 8 months old. And she has certainly gained so much confidence in trying new foods. We know she is ill when she point blanks refuses to eat, unlike Bear!

We try to eat a mixture of different foods from around the world, we love choosing the healthier choices. I made a Prawn curry from India (made it far too spicy!) from scratch, I have made Chinese sauces from scratch to. I try and make chips from scratch too but they usually end up half cooked or cooked but soggy as I don’t like deep fat frying. I think its important to add different foods into the mix too.

I try and cook from scratch as much as possible, it can be hard with working and busy family life. The processed food we eat is limited to once maybe twice a week as they contain too much salt and added artificial ingredients, which we don’t need. When I cook from scratch I never add salt even if its in the recipe, as many of the ingredients can contain salt already.  Please don’t get me wrong I do use processed food when we are in a rush as they are quick and convenient but I do also cook home-made.

My favorite food is Risotto unfortunately hubby is a fussy eater and will eat it as he turns his nose up which doesn’t help when Bear is so fussy too!

Bears favorite food is Chips and ketchup (full of sugar and salt so this is very limited!!)

Bells favorite food is pasta with cheese

Hubby’s favorite food is Sausage and mash

My aunt always says to try everything at least 20 times, and you know what I actually agree!

As a special treat once in a while Bear and Bell’s favorite restaurant is currently Wagamamas. I really do not mind this special treat as everything is cooked from scratch, the juices are freshly made and the ice lollies are also home-made. The service is quick and it save’s little people getting too bored!

 

 

 

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A day out ended in accident and emergency! 


We had a lovely morning we went to the local play park and it was empty. I should add it was 8.30am! 

The children ran free and went on everything they wanted to go on. Bell is now into following Bear everywhere I am sure he feels annoyed about it but he certainly doesn’t show it! 

We came home for lunch and after lunch we went to a local national trust property to ride scooters. 

They had some free activities on from colouring in to making crowns.


They also had rubbings of leaves for the children to also. 

We Popped to the little educational room where they had old fashioned type writers and stamps for the children to play with.


On the way back we went scootering up a hill on the way down Bell didn’t hit the break hard enough and she seemed to go even quicker she tumbled head first over the handle bars! 


There were some builders and they were very helpful and let me clean her up in their office. 

We then had to go to A&E just to check she was okay luckily it was bumps, bruises and a few cuts! 

It was very scary I was running but couldn’t catch her, I feel really bad but she is fine it could of been much worse! 

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Depression 

This is a bit of a rant post so apologises in advance if it annoys you.. Why do people use the word depression so loosely?

I am lucky enough not to suffer from depression but I do know people who do suffer from depression.

It’s certainly not a nice thing to have, it’s hard to watch people go through this but you need to be there for them and support them through their journey. We need to break the stigma and taboo of talking about mental illness and we need to do it now!

Here is the defintion for anybody who wpuld like to know.

Depression is a mood disorder that causes a persistent feeling of sadness and loss of interest. Also called major depressive disorder or clinical depression, it affects how you feel, think and behave and can lead to a variety of emotional and physical problems. You may have trouble doing normal day-to-day activities, and sometimes you may feel as if life isn’t worth living.

So please do not use the word depressed lightly it certainly isn’t a light matter. Let’s break the stigma 

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A trip to the Circus 

In March 2012 the government in Westminster announced a ban of using wild animals in circuses in England. Some circuses do still use Animals as they have a licence. But only certain animals are allowed.

I do not agree with Animals in circuses. It is not nice for the aninals to be transported on almost a daily baisic, the cages or containers they are in are not good enough to move around in. 

Anyway we visited a circus this week and it was brilliant! The father in law treated us all. There were no animals there, and the acts were mainly people spinning of ropes, balancing of beams and juggling. 


They also had a ball of dome, I think that’s what it was called Bell wasn’t impressed she covered her eyes and I had to agree with her on that one! 

Bear on the other hand loved all of it especially the slinky! 


Tickets were from £12 adults to £9 for the children depending on where you sit. We managed to sit right near the front as it was so empty.